Do birds fly? Do fish swim? Do monkeys climb and swing?
Then why are we asking, do women get horny and look so perplexed when doing so?
Because if we paid more attention, understood, and valued the process of how things work, we would be more aware of the basic steps that need to happen before more complex ones take place.
What needs to happen before your:
Get turned ON!
Then why would you desire sex or get horny, if you are not turned ON!, yet?
Have you been turned ON!, in some way, any of the times you felt horny or desired sex?
When you do have sex right now, do you enjoy it? Do you like the way you are approached? Do you currently like how things are and what they develop into?
If you are made to believe that a man’s approach is better, what part makes you feel like it is better? Or that you would prefer to be that way?
And if you are made to feel that it is better, why do you still feel this way, a lack of sexual desire and wondering do women get horny? – That tells me something is wrong about this approach if it works for one and not the other..
What makes the current way so special and how would things be better, if both:
When soooooooo much pleasure can be derived from taking the time to fully savor the experience.
Just because it is not a sex drive in women, it doesn’t make the way a woman normally responds to sex any less desirable, fun, or exciting. Quite the opposite I would say and I would like to show you why.
is another lame attempt to make women feel broken, inadequate, and frustrated about not being turned ON! as easily & quickly as guys do?
Because before we ask a question like that and make a lady feel bad about it, we must also consider two essential factors that get in the way of women and sexual desire.
Like:
> Continuing to use the ‘standard narrative’ approach -
Where a woman is more turned off than ON! by the way she is invited, made feel, and seduced to want and have sex.
A more suitable question is,
why should you want sex you don’t desire and like?
Especially when there’s no satisfaction and happy ending!
> dismissing the negative impact stress has on your life, sex included -
Not many women have sex on their mind when stressed out in life. Let alone want to be pushed, chased, or feel guilty for not wanting to have sex.
This just adds to the amount of stress women already carry around. So of course it doesn’t help you out and it makes things worse.
This is the quickest and easiest way to decrease your sexual desire and make you question why you don’t desire sex in the first place and as often as your partner does.
Think about the times you really desired and wanted sex, what was going on or how did you feel that opened you up to want and have sex?
Right now,
So if the things that spark and increase your sexual desire are not happening often enough or at all, how and why are you supposed to be turned ON! and horny?
I could imagine the difficulty of having to respond a certain way, feeling pushed and pressured to do so from an off position. Why can’t you be more like men and get horny & ON! by almost anything in sight?
Because you are not them. Thankfully! = )
Can I let you in on a little secret?
A woman’s sexual response process is different, better, and sensually delicious.
In his book, She Comes First, sex therapist Ian Kerner explains that women have an organ dedicated to doing one thing and one thing only..
To provide you with Pleasure!
And as much as you can handle since a lady has the additional ability to experience multiple orgasms..
WHAAAAAAAAT..?
Wait.. did I really say multiple orgasms?
Ok, now I’m really jealous of you ladies! = )
Why isn’t this something to celebrate???
Why would you want to be more like men when you have this Superpower at your disposal..?
The Clitoris was designed solely for the production of pleasure. And its capacity and power to do just that is reflected in what Ian adds from Greek Mythology – that Zeus and Hera went to the hermaphrodite Tiresias to ask who experiences more pleasure from sex, men or women.
And the answer..
Who do you think?
“If the sum of love’s pleasure adds up to ten – nine parts go to women, only one to men.”
We should be focusing on finding more pleasurable ways to ignite a woman’s sexual desire.
Pleasure is the key to your treasure!
The fun part is becoming explorers and through exploration find numerous and tantalizing ways to discover your hidden treasure.. M M MMMMMMMMM..
Ladies want more of an enticing reason to sensually play, share, and open up. Most women want to be looked at and appreciated, to be held and kissed, softly caressed, and be pulled, feel each other’s bodies closer and closer while the conversation gets hotter and hotter.
And to make any of this happen, we have to change our approach and create a sexier context for you ladies. Meaning set an environment that is safe, erotic, romantic, and highly affectionate while placing you in a more sensually delicious state; where you feel loved, seen, cared for, and emotionally close.
In men and women and sex we talked about the difference in approach to sex between men and women. Men can get turned ON! instantly, especially by one visual and desirable cue they see – spontaneous desire. Get Hot & Ready to go at a moment’s notice.
Whereas a woman requires more than that; not that there is something wrong with you, it is more that a female’s sexual response is different. It is actually waaay more Fun and eXciting when approached with a better, different, and sexier mindset.
Pleasure becomes the name of the game. And instead of trying to cross the finish line in record time, you look to proloooooooong it. You use it to your advantage, since the warmer you get the hotter it becomes! You find more creative ways to create a sexier context that warms you up and invites you to get closer while wanting more and more and more.
It sparks your curiosity to find out and know what can happen next, motivating you to explore the pleasure created and felt through your entire body.
You respond sexually because you are approached in sensually pleasurable ways.
Do women get horny, is a lazy way of labeling what you ladies go through and the lack of imagination and effort to approach a woman to desire, want, and have sex.
Just because it happens easier for guys, it doesn’t mean it should happen easier for ladies. You want to be pulled by pleasurable things happening and be motivated by the reward of sexual satisfaction.
And that satisfaction for a woman can and does mean many things, emotionally and sexually, which we fail to do since you are left desiring sex less and less and wanting more and more out of the experience.
No wonder why we ask too often do women get horny? You are simply not motivated to desire sex since you are not emotionally and sexually satisfied! If you were, that wouldn’t even be a question we continue to ask google about.
> You are both in the moment, here and now. Things slow down and he’s focused on you. He puts the phone away when having conversations, whether about something serious or sharing quality time together. It makes you feel seen and that they are taking the time to know you at a deeper level. Even more if they held you closely as you talked…
> On other occasions, they take the time to talk about pleasure. What you like and don’t like, when you are open to things and when you are not. Plus, they make you feel comfortable about sharing these intimate details and not feel judged or bad for “oversharing”. You both come up with your own love language so when you are in the moment, a few words you both understand do the trick.
> Through expressing yourselves openly, you create a deeper bond, setting the foundation for intimacy at an erotic and emotional level. You show how much you care and accept one another.
The more you do this, the stronger the sense of trust and connection you feel together; through sexual pleasure, emotionally & physically.
And that leads to enjoying each other’s company and having more fun together. It brings out your playful nature and allows you to become more curious about exploring fantasies and other things you have on your mind but were afraid to talk about and open yourself up to.
You have more reasons to not hold back since you have an increase sense to surrender and be vulnerable. You feel and know they are there for you, connected and trusted.
If you felt more of this and you shared this kind of approach and sex life, would you be wondering, do women get horny? Or would you be more open to exploring your sexual desire?
If you like this kind of approach, looking for something different, like we just described – create that emotional connection through playful pleasure – take a look at A Bubble Bath to Unwind.
Then let me know if this is something you want in your life and would love to want more of. Because part of what we want you to see is that the only thing wrong here is how you are approached and not you.
You are BeaUtiful the way you are and exquisitely irresistible to pleasure, please, and satisfy!
Enjoy your Bubble Bath! = )