Why are men so horny?

It definitely feels that way since they are ready to go at a moment’s notice; and how most men do spontaneous desire. See something sexy, something that registers as sex-related and it sparks an internal mental sexual narrative of what could happen next that it gets men so turned ON! and want to take action. No wonder we end up asking, why are men so horny?

And it is not that men are hornier than women, the way things are in our society just makes it easier for men to be this way and show it.

When we talked about men and women and sex, we mentioned that men are more visual; more receptive and sensitive to what they see. Throughout the day, men see plenty of things that they find attractive, even more when they know what they like.

Men definitely feel different inside and become aware of the signal from the brain saying, actually screaming, that’s sex-related! Pay attention, I like this and go get more!

The curiosity of what can happen next creates an urgency to want to satisfy this craving. Triggering a vivid imagination of the anticipation of pleasure that may come and what it provides - Pure satisfaction!!

Women are not wrong when you often wonder why are men so horny after seeing how effortless it is for guys to build up sexual tension and energy inside. And not just that, but the way they take action to quickly find a release and relief.

And since guys take pride in the pursuit of what they want and getting it, they will do what they can to make sure it happens.

Why are men so horny is a way of men showing their spontaneous desire and not holding back because they are sexually attractive to you ladies and what they see in you.

The approach is part of the problem

Men have been programmed and conditioned to believe that when you want something, you are supposed to take action and do something about it. If you don’t, then you’re not man enough and there must be something wrong with you.

The trouble with being this easily aroused by attractive things seen throughout the day is that they notice them everywhere. And since anything and everything ends up turning into a sexual, desirable cue for men, it creates motion to move and satisfy this “urgent” need.

Which is why the question of, why are men so horny, becomes another way to describe the bigger issue of a male’s approach to sex.

That they just go with whatever sexual cue they like the most and the "urgent" need to find a way to satisfy it as quickly as possible. It’s almost like men have been trained this way. The thinking is “this is just how it is and how men are.” And since it’s quick, it happens often.

Even society has been programmed to see it, believe it, and feel this way about it. When this becomes the “standard narrative”, it should not be a surprise why people wonder and ask, do women get horny? Because women are not this way or affectionately respond to this approach.

Compared to the quick trigger and the constant 100m race mindset that men exhibit; I could understand why we feel and believe women may not get horny.

Let’s pause for a moment and imagine an alternate world where we do spontaneous desire differently. Where we change the approach and use that sexual spark to explore and discover rather than see it as a ticking time bomb that we need to defuse before blowing up.

Why not use that spark about what we see, what caught our attention and turned us ON! to channel it in more responsive ways with our girlfriend or wife.

Let’s use the sexual energy created by that sexually desirable cue and turn it into something more. It’s really just a signal of something we find attractive and sex-related; not that the forces of nature are conspiring in our favor to take action and live out a fantasy.

Sometimes it can be, if the context is made out for that. But the actual idea here is about changing the approach and use the quick trigger in better and sexier ways.

Instead of asking, why are men so horny?

Our mindset changes and we begin to ask,

can men use that spark to be more responsive, have fun and take their time building up the heat?

Especially if they know and understand that women require more affection, play, and seduction in pleasurable ways to respond in the same way.

What if it looked more like this..?

I come home one day and catch my girlfriend like this on top of our bed when I approach our bedroom. I don’t say anything. I stand under the door frame and just quietly observe so I can take it all in, for as long as I can, before she feels me there and turns around.

What do you think is the first thing I notice..?

Absolutely! That she looks immersed and enjoying what she is reading..!  = )

Instead of me trying to guess what would normally happen to you in a similar situation, allow me to show you how a spontaneous desire can be used to spark a playful interaction and ignite a woman’s responsive desire.

Use a spontaneous spark to ignite a pleasurable response

Even though I catch my girlfriend like this, I pause and take the time to fully enjoy and take in what she is allowing me to see and hopefully observe.

Yes!! I do notice her legs and the shape of her luscious ass, only covered by a black cheeky thong. If you wear something black like that, what does it usually mean? Exactly what is on my mind too!

Then I continue to take a closer look and I see she’s wearing my comfortable, soft sweater to feel warm, cozy, and close to me. Also, I notice there are no pens and highlighters around, so it might be some light and entertaining reading.

She straightened out her hair and lightly held it back with a hair claw clip so she wouldn’t mess it up and prevent from covering her face. She wants to look good & beautiful, which she does, in a seductive, relaxed, and comfortable kind of way.

Why rush in and ruin the vibe & mood she created and is giving me just because it sparked my spontaneous desire and turns me ON!?

I want to be as playful and seductive as she is being with me. Maybe she is thinking about the same thing she just provoked in me, but I want to tease & entice her sexual desire just like she is doing to mine.

So I approach her, lie sideways next to her and ask my baby girl what she is reading while I slightly smile and raise one eyebrow. Look into her eyes as she smiles back and locks into mine giggling with her answer. That tells me I caught her off guard since she probable has been more inside her head thinking about.. than what she is reading.

I play it off and lightly caress her forehead, comb the few hair strands in front of her face behind her ear and remind her how absolutely gorgeous she is and looks.

I move closer to her, wrap an arm around her to snuggle a little tighter with her and ask her to tell me some more about her interesting book. She looks deeper into my eyes with a half-smile and tries to camouflage that she’s been lost in thought and barely paying attention to what she is “reading”.

I intertwine my legs with hers and play a little footsie while I caress her back down to her lower back. Slide a hand, with my fingertips, under her sweater and doodle around her lower back. She gives me a sexy squinting look and moves slowly and closer to me for a sweet kiss.

From here, this can lead to a playful conversation about not actually reading, giving her a teasing pop quiz and have fun with her.

As I continue to hold her close, give her kisses and softly caress her back, lower back, and lightly trace the outline of her cheeky thong before feeling her entire ass, get a good hold of it and give it one heaven of a gentle squeeze.

If I take the time to pay attention to her subtle sensual signs of feeling sexy, seductive, and fun, go along with them and play with her, where do you think things will go?

Do you think how men approach women matters?

Just because I saw her like this at first, it doesn’t mean sex was going to happen. I believe our approach matters when it comes to igniting a woman’s sexual desire and for her to want more.

What would have happened if I would have seen her like this and wasted no time, got naked, went from behind, looked to take her panties off and go right in? I feel things would have gone completely different and most likely it would have turned her off and killed the mood she created.

This is in part the bad wrap men have with sex and the belief behind, why are men so horny?

Men move and go with the impulse of quickly satisfying the urge and forget or don’t know to have fun, play, and incentivize a woman with pleasure to want more. It gets treated as a drive and a sprint to the finish line.

And since ladies don’t think and respond in this way, it leaves people thinking, do women get horny?

Yes they do!!

It just isn’t a sex drive in women and that’s perfectly fine, normal, and healthy.

Would you have gotten turned ON! and wanted more if you would have been approached differently like we described?

Then let’s talk some more about it and see why you respond to pleasure.